Addiction is a very difficult subject to approach with someone that you care about. Fortunately, there are things that you can do to make it a bit easier on yourself and on them. Although each person is different, there are some things that are almost universal.
Things to Avoid
There are a few things that you should definitely avoid doing. These are:
Avoid remaining silent – speaking up is one thing that you can do and is in your control. Before speaking up though, you should do some research. Familiarize yourself with the addiction and treatment. You can find everything that you need right here at Addictions.com.
Avoid judging the person – Judgment is one of the worst possible things that you can do. You are not in their shoes, you do not know exactly how they feel or why they are turning to drugs or alcohol. It is important to remain nonjudgmental. If they feel as if you are judging them they will stop listening.
Do not make excuses – You might find yourself excusing their drug use, particularly if they started using because they are in pain or because of a traumatic incident. Just like it is not up to you to judge them, it is not up to you to excuse their behavior. Making excuses tends to allow them to continue using drugs or alcohol.
No Yelling – this is important. Do not yell or criticize them. There is a good chance that they are already in a bad place. Yelling just provokes a confrontation and makes things worse.
Avoid talking to them when they are high – When they are actively using, they may become violent or at the very least you will push them away. Also they may not remember anything that you said.
Things you Should do
There are also things that you should do when you are talking to a loved one about their addiction. These are:
Talk to an Addiction Specialist – Talking to someone who knows about addiction like the counselors here at Addictions.com is an excellent way to start. They can give you more pointers about how to approach the subject and even recommend rehab facilities like Florida rehab centers.
Offer help unconditionally – Unconditional help is important. Let them know that you are here for them and that you will continue to help them find treatment no matter what.
Let them know you care – always let them know that you love them even though they have a drug or alcohol problem. Also make sure that they know that you will continue to love them no matter what. They are less likely to perceive your approach as an attack if they understand that you are talking about it because you care.
Look at the Treatment Options – think about what your loved one likes and explore treatment centers that offer it. If your friend enjoys beaches and warm weather, Florida rehab centers might be good. If they enjoy the mountains, consider those in western North Carolina or Colorado. There is a rehab out there for everyone.
Where to Start
Wondering where to begin, start by talking to someone who understands what you are going through. Talking to a loved one is not easy. For support and advice, call 800-654-0987. We can help you understand what your loved one is going through and offer suggestions. Our operators are available 24/7 and are happy to assist you.
Sources:
- https://www.helpguide.org/articles/addictions/drug-abuse-and-addiction.htm#loved
- https://www.drugabuse.gov/related-topics/treatment/what-to-do-if-your-adult-friend-or-loved-one-has-problem-drugs
